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What Every Parent Knows: the Fallacy of Socialism

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If you are a parent, or if you remember what you did to your parents, you can understand basic economics, and sort out the fallacy of Socialism.   Apparently this “ism” is rearing its ugly head again, even in the halls of Congress.   Every generation wrangles this beast to the ground.   So, let’s go at it again–from a different perspective.

The reason Socialism has failed in every country it has ever been tried in, and has brought those countries to their knees economically, has to do with a fundamental truth that sometimes gets obscured in all the political rhetoric and ideology.

The truth is this:   What you reward, you get more of.   What you penalize you get less of.  That is a truth, and every parent and child knows it.  Parents, recall a time when your child pitched a fit in a restaurant or out in public.  One so intense and loud and enduring that you just “had to quiet them” to stem the embarrassment of disrupting others.   So, you gave them a candy, or stopped doing what you were doing and put all your attention on them.   You coddled and cooed them into being quiet.   And at that moment you rewarded a “down stat” or bad behavior.   And the moment you rewarded it with food, cuddles, kisses, or money, you set the stage and virtually guaranteed yourself that another temper tantrum would ensue the next time the child wanted something.   You rewarded a tantrum, so you get more tantrums.   Eventually you learned not to do that, and you endured an excruciating amount of shrill screams until the child eventually learned that you would not reward that behavior any more.

Likewise, if your child came home with money he had earned by selling “homemade widgets” in the neighborhood because he wanted to earn money to buy a bicycle, and you forced him to share his profit with his brother, who stayed home playing computer games, you just penalized his initiative and activity.  Now he has less interest in making things, selling things, earning things.  You get less of the behavior that would make him a functioning, contributing adult, and you get two kids lying on their beds playing computer games.   That is followed by years of you cajoling both of them, trying to get them to “show some ambition.”

It’s pretty simple.   If someone produces, you reward it some way, and you will get more production.   If someone fails to produce, you deny them somehow, and you will get less of the failure.   You “penalize” the bad behavior, and you get less of it.  (Now you know I am not talking about child abuse, and beatings.  You are smarter than that.)   That production can be job-related, as in someone producing more product, sales, or profit; it can be emotional stability; it can be getting great grades; it can be sanity; it can be health; it can be harmony; it can be truthfulness…. you can add in any that come to mind.   If it’s good, reward it.   If it’s bad, penalize it.

Now, for example, take news agencies whose anchors and reporters on an almost daily basis make huge and potentially catastrophic misstatements of facts.   Getting it wrong is not something that should be rewarded.   It should be penalized.   One would think you can make one or two honest mistakes, but when it seems to be your regular approach to journalism, you should be fired.   Instead, they are rewarded with higher pay, and celebrity status.   And you wonder why the next network, or newspaper, suddenly finds itself with false reporting.   What you reward you get more of.

Conversely, if a journalist tries to straighten out his colleagues and honestly report something he feels has been misrepresented, he is held up to public humiliation, demoted and/or fired.  Good behavior was penalized.   What does that teach everyone?

I remember once calling a business mentor of mine to discuss something I was very upset about.   When she came on the phone, I was crying, and speaking forcefully in heated emotion about the situation, and some people I wanted to complain about.   She calmly said, “Lee, call me back when you are in a better mood, and we will discuss it.”   And she hung up.

After getting over my pout session, I realized she was right.   My behavior was unprofessional, and guaranteed to produce more upset with her and others.   So, she did not reward it with sympathy, attention, or anything else.   She held me to a standard of professionalism.  I got my act together, called her back, and discussed the very real situation like the adult I was, and like the professional she was.   We worked out a solution, and went on our way.

And I never did that again.   She rewarded my good behavior as an executive with attention and insight.   She denied my bad behavior.   And, I became a wiser, better leader.

Now I challenge you to look at Socialism through that prism.   What does it reward?   If it penalizes production you will get less production–thus a declining economy and then the  declining wealth of every citizen ultimately.   By rewarding the non-producer with something he has not earned, you get more non-production.

Pretty simple, actually.   Now–call your Congressmen and women and educate them please.   And if they won’t listen to you, fire them.

Abortion–The Third Rail

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It’s taken me a while to write about this because of the highly sensitive, career-destroying nature of the topic.   Just the word brings about stimulus-response reactions on both sides of the issue.  The word alone engenders divisiveness.   But, before any of you hyperventilate, feel your blood pressure rise, or your stomach sink, relax.   This is not going to be what you think.

It is my hope to examine something from a different perspective, and in so doing, I hope to ease your spirit and mind, and open up a possibility not addressed.  This piece is not judgmental; it is not political; it is not incendiary.   It is to help you navigate past the “Third Rail.”

In an earlier Blog (Guidelines for Living) I spoke of a friend who expressed to me what he had taught his children regarding how to live:   Do as much good as you can.  Do as little harm as you can.  Those simple sentences hold, I believe, an answer for women and men who may be in anguish on this subject–torn, and suffering emotionally.

Let’s begin by using those rules as guidelines.   Abortion is legal in the US, and will remain so. Though one has that choice, It may not be the best option.   So, let’s calmly, and rationally, look at another option.

Do as little harm as you can.   If a woman is pregnant and does not want the child whether because of  money, being unmarried, fear, career, circumstances of conception, or health, she is often encouraged to abort the child.  So, she “harms” the child in order to “help” herself and her future.   There are, however, three things in play:   The mother, the child, and a couple who is childless somewhere in America who pray nightly for a child, and who would love to adopt.

Therefore, a decision to abort no doubt allows the woman to go on with her life without the child and all that comes with that baby.  But, harm is done to the baby.   It is not really debatable that the fetus is a separate entity, with separate DNA.   It is not a tumor.   It is a human being, with a DNA blueprint, growing in what is supposed to be the nurturing and protecting womb of the mother until birth.  To destroy the fetus is to harm the child and whatever potential exists with that being. It also harms a couple in their quest for a child they would love and care for the remainder of their lives.   The decision to abort then helps one, and harms two.

The decision to deliver the baby and give it up for adoption is an alternative.   Let’s take the other rule.   Do as much good as you can.   Giving it up allows the mother to be free and to move on.   That’s good for her.   It allows the child to live and have a chance to laugh, to squeal, to learn to walk, run, read and BE.   it allows a desiring and deserving couple to have and cherish a dream.  It helps all three, and harms none.

Put it all together now.   Do as much good as you can; do as little harm as you can.  It is not a sin, and you are not a bad person to want to protect yourself from perceived harm or disaster. But, isn’t it worth looking at this:  to free yourself in such a way as to do good for the baby, and for others?   Why can’t everyone win?  I’d like to suggest that peace of mind, and emotional calm are more likely here.  My experience in life has taught me that any time we can do more good than harm, we prosper as an individual.  We feel strong, empowered, and confident in ourselves–not in our perfection (which is unattainable), but in our meeting a potentially devastating challenge and surmounting it for the good of many.  In that we attain a degree of wisdom.

Sadly, my experience in life has also taught me that when we act in our own self-interest–no matter how justified–but harm others in doing it, we are less empowered, less confident.   We know, somehow, that we are better than that.

I encourage everyone to slow down, ruminate on this a bit.   Because in the coming days you are going to be confronted by your elected lawmakers with laws that will require more than the Wisdom of Solomon.   They will require a sanity that no psychiatrist or psychologist has even a glimmer of understanding, let alone accomplishing for themselves.  Those two simple rules are sane.   They open a window to the light.  They lead to physical and psychological freedom.

I leave you with this.   Today, I heard the Governor of Virginia defend a lawmaker who is proposing abortion of the child during childbirth, including after birth potentially.  This is America.   How did we come to this?   Where is it going to end?

We are better than this.

It’s All About Money

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If current events and political discord leave you scratching your head or shouting at your TV screen, “What the hell are you fighting about?,” you are not wrong in your common sense.   Some things are so obvious that one is dismayed there is any disagreement.   Yet there seems to be a point/counter-point on every single issue facing us and our elected leaders today.

In our lives, we would have figured it out. Yet, those people on the other side of the Potomac, and the salivating media that makes money through the discord, seem stymied by it.  They pontificate, and sit in stalemate.

Our current border situation is such an issue.   No matter what you want to do with MOSTLY kind, opportunity-seeking immigrants who have chosen to jump the line and enter our country illegally, no matter what your compassionate heart strings say, I think only those in denial would choose to suggest  we are talking about LEGAL immigration to this country.   We are talking about ILLEGAL immigration.   To conflate the two is disingenuous, if not downright deceptive.   So, I am setting that aside, giving every reader here the benefit of the doubt.

Only those in denial, or complete unawareness of events around the world before and since 9/11, would ignore the obvious.   Bad guys will hide amongst good guys.  It is called infiltration.   It is called undercover operations.  It is a fact that drug cartels are moving their product and their distribution channels into the US–killing tens of thousands of Americans every year.  It is a fact that MS13 is infiltrating the US. It is a tragic fact that slave traders–otherwise known as “human traffickers”–regularly bring the slaves into the US.   It is a FACT that Al Qaeda and Isis and others infiltrate our country across that border.

Why then would anyone not want to put in a barrier system that prevents bad guys from entering, respects the legal process with people waiting in line for immigration, sorts out legitimate asylum cases, and prevents ILLEGAL entry by the decent, AND the far-from-decent, people from various parts of the world?  The question is not whether you want more people here.   The question is do you want to reward legal behavior, or reward illegal behavior?

Long ago, a business mentor of mine taught me a valuable lesson–a lesson all Americans I believe would be well off to learn right now.  He said, “Lee, it is all about money, and always about money.  So, just follow the money and you will find out the who and the why.”  Continued conflict and divisiveness will never be about principles, ideals, philosophies, humanitarianism.   They are the cover story, the camouflage. It will always be about money.

Therefore, I think we all would have a lot more peace of mind, and not be so vitriolic towards each other on this admittedly difficult problem, if we asked ourselves a question.   Every President before this one has faced that border problem, and begun a solution.   Then, mysteriously, every one of them has backed away.   The question you should have asked is, why?  Why did they change course?   Why, even now, are politicians in Washington who a few years ago wanted to have, and voted for, a barrier now reversing course and digging in for a fight?

It’s all about money.   Ask yourself:   Who benefits from drug cartels operating inside the US?   Who benefits from tens of thousands of people illegally entering and overloading the public services areas–education, law enforcement, medical, judicial etc?   Who benefits from people being dragged across our border and sold into all kinds of horrific slavery?  Who benefits from terrorists entering surreptitiously, forming cells in cities across the US?    Who benefits from the ensuing political chaos?

Someone is fighting this current President with everything they have.   His “crime?”   He did not back away.   He stayed on course.  Perhaps he was naïve, or perhaps he was bold.  But that “course” has put him on a collision course with the men and women who are the “answer” to the questions I asked above.   They are the “Who.” They are corrupt people, whose only motivation is money and power.   And We the People, the Press, and Politicians are being manipulated.

This begs another question, a really tough one:  Are those people IN the Press?   Are they IN Washington?  This should keep you up at night.   It does me.  (It is why I wrote “White King and the Doctor” and “White King Rising.”)

Follow the money.   Who stands to gain financially from this?  Who gains from us being divided? Who gains by stopping the President from fulfilling what other Presidents also promised? Look, just look.

And while you are at it, look at Reid Hoffman and his latest “project.”   He is the subject of the next Blog.

The Cans at the End of the Road

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This past election was the 50th election I have had the privilege of voting in.  If you read the Blog “Dream Debt,” done last August and archived here, you probably understand that I have been watchful and engaged in the decisions I and my fellow countrymen make, and who we send to Washington.

This is the 13th President I have experienced.   Many Congresses have come and gone.   But always, there have been major issues facing us.  I have watched each President be willing to address one or two of them, and then “kick the can down the road” on the others.   Whether it was lack of responsibility, courage, political will, intelligence, wisdom, talent, creativity, or a winning mindset,  I don’t know.   But, each President and members of Congress tackled something on behalf of the people, and crowed about their accomplishment.   Usually it was the one they would receive the least criticism or resistance on.   And in the name of bi-partisanship, they kicked the rest down the road.

The problem is the cans didn’t go away.   Like trash in the environment, or a cancer growing, these issues have grown, festered, and have become a clear and present danger to this country and its future generations.

Here are a few of the “cans”.   I am sure you will recognize them, and you may have been working on them yourself–sounding alarm bells:  Social Security, Medicare, Immigration and Illegal Immigration, the Rule of Law and the will to enforce the laws enacted by our representatives, Medical Coverage (by the way we don’t have a Health Care problem in this country; we have a Medical Coverage problem), Drugs, North Korea and Iran, Russia and other nations meddling and stealing, Education, Equal Justice under the law, National Debt, and the Balance of Trade Deficit.

That last one is something most people know nothing about, yet it is a precursor to a whole host of other economic issues we have faced.   When I was in college, my debate partner and I became national debate champions.   The issue he understood so well, and which we annihilated our opponents on, was the issue of Balance of Trade Deficits.   The other, more Ivy League-type schools didn’t bother to delve into that one.   They kicked the can down the road and focused instead on the delicious, controversial topics related to the Viet Nam War etc.  We were prepared on all the cans, however, and knew as a small college we couldn’t kick any can down the road if we had a winning mindset, and were determined to win.

Through my adult life, as I would watch Washington wimp out, I knew–and I hope you did too–that one day there would be an “end of the road.”  And all the cans would pile up.   Almost too terrifying to think of, isn’t it?   Being at the end of the road, at the day of reckoning, confronted with the daunting task of handling them all–at once.

Moreover, as a young woman, and then as a middle-aged woman, I knew that some future President down the road would inherit them all.  That President, as it turns out, is President Trump.  Whether he desired this or not, the best image I can give you of how I see his situation is this:   The President is standing at the end of the road, looking down at his feet, only to see he is knee deep in cans.   Each one bears the label of one of the issues I mentioned–and many I didn’t.

But this President doesn’t just stoop down and pick up one or two.   No, he looks at all of them and picks them all up at the same time.  If I were to show you the next image in my mind, it is him standing there with his arms full of cans–not just one or two or three that he can juggle–ALL OF THEM.   And in the mind bubble you see in cartoons, he is thinking, “Well, I have ideas on how to solve each of these.   Something can be done about all of this.   Let’ START.”

And for that reason alone–regardless of party, his background, his personality style, or anything else he is savaged for–I admire the man.   He is the gutsiest President I have seen in my lifetime, and I for one wish him well, and plan to weigh in to help, not resist or obstruct.  One man is standing at the end of the road, and the American people sent him there to handle the cans.

Personally I feel that praying people should pray that he has wisdom, understanding, vision, creativity, and strength.  Because the most disappointing time in my life has been having to watch the attacks from members of both parties, the incompetence of members of both parties, the absolute abdication of all professional responsibility by the hate-filled Merchants of Chaos, and the cliched, parrot-like discussions of people who are quick to criticize, but who don’t even take the time to properly examine one of the “cans,” let alone understand it well enough to create a solution.   Talk’s cheap, but trash talk and smack talk are even cheaper!

Solutions have apparently eluded some very fine minds over the years.  Succumbing to an inability to achieve a solution, they caved, and sent the “can” down the road for future generations.

At least this President knows he works for ALL of the American people, and comes up with ideas daily on everything.  I respect that.   But, do we respect ourselves and our country enough to step up like mature adults, and put our shoulder to the wheel?  Are we ready to grapple with the “hard?”  Are we willing to be embarrassed, ridiculed, and criticized?   Will we press on?   Or will we spectate as if we are watching Cage Boxing, delighting at every drawn drop of blood?

I told you I am an optimist.   I believe in the people of this country.   I just feel we need to accept the responsibility that we caused our politicians to “kick the can down the road” because they were afraid of our ire.   After all, we hold the power to vote them out of office.   And since we didn’t want to face the solutions–which might involve personal sacrifice–we now are staring at the consequence of our own cowardice:   a pile of cans at the end of the road.  And one lone man–imperfect as he may be, or as imperfect as you may think he is–stoops down and picks them all up.

It’s New Year’s.   What’s your resolution?   I have made mine.

 

Merry Christmas & Other Controversial Salutations

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Being older now, I just want to say Merry Christmas!  Admittedly my roots are in upstate New York, a small village of almost no diversity other than 8 different Christian denominations.  Naturally, we all had one thing in common at least.   And that was the celebration of Christmas.

In recent years, where many people seemingly live to take offense at almost anything that is said or done, many have strayed away from celebrating the reason for the season, or retreated into quietly doing it, so as not to offend anyone of another faith, or no faith.

Personally, I have come to know that if I get “offended,” it means I am not controlling my emotions.  Each of us can choose at any moment to let our emotions control us, or we can control them.   I prefer to take responsibility for my reactions and actions, and not point the finger at someone else for expressing an opinion or belief different than mine.  Though not perfect by any means, I practice this each day. When someone does something offensive, I don’t “get offended” anymore.   I merely look at it, and choose the emotion I want to display next.  The challenge is to display an emotion that creates some affinity and understanding, not one guaranteed to breach it.   It’s a challenge worth taking up. Humbling actually…

Along the way, I decided to not only celebrate Christmas with cheerful salutations of “Merry Christmas” but I have also chosen to be joyful of others’ holidays as well.   I just join in–and am willing to take happiness and togetherness wherever I find it.  Personally I believe we could all use a little more grace and cheer.   This time of year affords us lots of opportunity to smile and sincerely wish someone well–wish them some joy.   So, if there is an honest celebration going on, man, I join in!

So, with that said, I want to wish you ALL a very MERRY CHRISTMAS!

 

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